What Your Date’s Beer Bottle Grip Says About Themby Lauren Passell on August 20, 2012
Everyone is nervous on a first date, and I don’t think we should be scrutinizing things too much (nerves makes us do some wacky things), but sometimes it’s comforting to look at any little hints, especially if you are considering going on to drink number two, or five. So besides the fact he immediately admitted he cheated on his last girlfriend or told you he doesn’t respect your area of profession, here’s what Cosmo thinks you should look out for.
For example, if he grips the long-neck loosely with his thumb and index finger, he’s confident, relaxed, and feels in control of the situation. (Cocky, maybe?) When you’re as cool as this guy, you don’t have to worry about dropping your beer.
If he holds the bottle to his chest, he’s putting up a wall. Already. He might not be up for a serious conversation, so stick to lighter things, like how many times he has seen Kill Bill or what music is on his iPod.
Pushing the drink near you means he’s feeling the urge to bond and he wants to get closer to you.
Playing with the bottle’s label means he’s nervous and lacking confidence. That is your cue to make him feel more comfortable, if you want. He might not be sure you like him, so if you do, touch his arm or laugh a little, give him a compliment. Also pay attention to what he just said — it might have been something that makes him anxious. If you’re in a relationship with this person, it might mean he said something he’s worried about talking about with you.
This stuff seems pretty logical to me — you might have figured it out already through experience. But it is a reminder that even the smallest cues can reveal something about him to you, allowing you to better steer the date to a better place. A better drinking place.
So do you agree? And what does this say about how I hold my wine glass?