Poll: Is Not Kissing on a First Date Weird?

Glamour’s Gena Kaufman recently asked readers whe ther it’s weird to not kiss on a (good) first date. It’s a bit of a puzzling question!

I’ve always been of the belief that if it’s a blind date or an online date, you can take things a bit slower. It’s a little different that going on a date with someone you’ve already met — you’re feeling each other out, and often it’s the second date that starts to feel more date-y.

On the other hand, one of my guy friends once said to me, with utter conviction, that if he doesn’t kiss a girl on the first date it means he’s not interested. And when I think back on my own romantic history, I’ve never had a first date lead to a second date if there wasn’t kissing involved.

But still, that doesn’t mean that it’s that weird to not kiss…maybe the moment just wasn’t right. I mean, if it didn’t happen, it means that neither of you initiated a kiss. So you’re complicit in the lack of making out!

And one more marginally related anecdote: my editor says she’s been annoyed when guys have tried to kiss her too soon in the course of a first date — like right in the middle of it. Says it took away all the buildup, while simultaneously raising the stakes for what happened at the end of the date. I can see her point.

So anyway, we want to hear from you: do all good first dates have to end with a kiss? And, if you both have a great time but don’t kiss…is that weird?