YourTango fielded a pretty interesting question recently from a girl who keeps finding herself in relationships with “recreational drug users,” despite apparently having a problem with it. Which, like, yeah, dating a drug user can be really annoying if you’re not a user yourself. (Sometimes the issue can be less about the drug and more about the lifestyle that accompanies it, whether it’s being out/up at all hours, or spending sunny afternoons sitting on the couch doing nothing. If it’s not your speed, it’s not your speed!)

So what do you do if you find yourself continually falling for users, though you personally take your D.A.R.E. vow seriously? For one thing, start trying to meet people in different environments. Are you meeting all your drug-using paramours at concerts? Then try meeting someone while volunteering on weekend afternoons, instead. (Conversely, if you’re meeting drug users while volunteering, start going to more concerts.)

Most online dating sites will let you specify whether you use drugs yourself, and whether you mind it in others: be honest here and check “NO” and “YES.”

Additionally, if you know that drug use is going to really bother you, then stop things early. Make drug use your dealbreaker, find out early on whether your date is into them or not, and if they are, break things off immediately.

Because if drugs are a big issue for you, and your date likes them, then bottom line, you are incompatible. So go ahead and break things off, so that they can find a partner who tolerates drugs, and you can find a partner who doesn’t.

[YourTango via Yahoo Shine: Help! I Have a History of Dating Drug Users]

 

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