We can’t all go Taylor Swift and start dating a Kennedy, but we can take heed from her newest “scandalous” actions. This down-home country chick who we’ve seen blossom into a beautiful young lady has been seen attempting to “sweeten” her already sugary disposition and dress a little more… Jackie O. Her Americana twist after dating a boy from the one of the most famous bloodlines in the U.S., while adorable, is maybe a little bit of a red flag.
Here’s five reasons why, while not end-of-the-world bad, you shouldn’t change your style for a boyfriend:
Acceptance is the base of any good relationship.
This is self explanatory. Dating someone who wants you, or who you feel obligated, to change your fashion sense isn’t worth it. It may be small in comparison to other deal-breakers, but accepting someone’s fashion sense may just be the tip of the iceberg.
What else are you willing to change?
Personal style should be an outward reflection of your internal personality. If he doesn’t accept how you represent your outer beauty, how will be accept the inner?
It feels a bit shallow.
So yes, I agree looks aren’t everything, but shallowness isn’t a trait I want in any potential boyfriend so changing my inner style sense feels like he’s focusing too much of surface value.
Some relationships are fickle monsters.
Relationships are worse than the stock exchange sometimes. Wasting time and energy (and money! — not that Taylor Swift has to worry about that) on attempting to impress him and his family with your ability to fit in isn’t worth it. Win them over with your charm and poise and selflessness rather than thinking your outfit will shock them into loving you.
Listening to yourself is better in the long run.
Feeling comfortable in your own skin is the number 1 rule for anyone searching for a relationship. If your personal style is suffering, give it a sartorial kick in the pants with a shopping trip with the girls instead of forcing yourself to like what you think him and his family will like. It’ll make you happier that you listened to your style voice instead of someone else’s.