“Can I Please Date My Roommate?”by Lauren Passell on July 05, 2012
Redeye‘s Anna Pully tackles a question that everyone must have considered at some point:
“I just started seeing this really fantastic girl. She’s fun, smart, ambitious. It’s too soon for us to be really serious, but I do like her a lot. Just one problem: She’s my roommate. We’re both 21, live in a house with three other people, and there’s a strict ‘no couples’ rule when we seek roommates. Like I said, we really like each other but it’s only been a few weeks, and I don’t think either one of us is up for making life changes for the relationship at this point, but we both want to see where it goes. What do we do?”
Anna says to be careful, adding:
“It’s common knowledge that dating or sleeping with a roommate is a terrible idea. It falls under the “Don’t sh*t where you eat” advice umbrella, along with not dating coworkers. If things go sour, and odds are firmly in that favor, then you’re left to deal with an awkward situation that could ultimately lead to one or both of you not having a place to live. Plus, when you date a roommate, you’re not dating; you’re cohabitating. You already know all about their questionable Etsy projects, that they pee on the toilet seat, and that they love blasting Don Henley at 2 a.m. There are some people who might look at this in a positive way, and say, “Well, great! I already know the worst about this person, and it’s better to find out about it sooner than later.” To which I would say, “No seriously. He plays ‘Witchy Woman’ every night!” There’s a reason we don’t court in reverse.”
There’s a reason that most success stories don’t begin with “and we started dating after we fell in love with each other as roommates and The End happily ever after etc!” But stranger things have happened. Maybe you should start blasting Shania Twain’s “Still The One” in your shared place.
Read the rest of Anna’s advice here.