Jonathan is a Manhattan psychotherapist and author. He appears on national TV commenting on sex and relationship issues as well as lifestyle, mental health, and hot-button issues. Get more of Jonathan’s great advice in his new book, Be Fearless: Change Your Life in 28 Days, on sale April 24th. Follow Jonathan on Twitter at @JonathanAlpert and on Facebook at facebook.com/jonathanalpert.
The good news: it’s fixable.
Is being “friends with benefits” with someone you live in the same building with a recipe for disaster?
Rather than seeing this as a problem, see it as an opportunity to expand your sexual horizons and learn what works for you.
Don’t get caught taking care of someone else’s needs at the expense of your own.
Respect her feelings related to her late husband while recognizing that you’re not his replacement. This current relationship is and will be different.
Keep in mind that although her reasons for not wanting to have sex may not seem like good ones to you, for her they are.
If you looked into a crystal ball, you’d probably see that the problems you have now will occur in the future.
“There’s so much about us that is good. I’m wondering though, can this relationship survive?”
“We have a pretty good relationship but this is starting to really get to me. What should I do?”