The One Date Rule, Revisited: Why You Should Always Go on That First Dateby Chiara Atik on March 22, 2011
Way back in December, I wrote about my One Date Rule: basically, I believe that anyone who makes the effort of asking me out on a date deserves a chance, no matter how hesitant I might be. Of course, in practice, the one date rule is hard to stick to.
Yesterday morning, my friend Gchatted me at work.
Friend: I have a date tonight.
Me: Oooooh that’s exciting
Friend: I REALLY don’t want to go.
Friend: i just need to go home tonight and clean my apartment and like, watch tv.
Me: maybe he’ll be great!
Friend: No. I can already tell.
Friend: he keeps TEXTING me
Me: About what?
Friend: “excited for tonight!” “See you then!”
Friend: TOO strong.
And in email, after I left work and signed off for the day:
he just texted me. Again. do i really have to go on this date???????
And as I checked my email on the way to the subway I very nearly hit “Reply” and wrote “yeah, no, don’t go.” Because my friend had been dreading it ALL DAY. She clearly wasn’t excited about it. It was MONDAY. This guy was saying and doing all the wrong things. What was the point of leading him on when it was just going to be a disaster?
Except, instead of hitting reply I got distracted cause the train was here, and then I forgot all about it until the next day when I saw her green dot on my GChat list.
Me: How was it????????
Friend: haha it was REALLY GOOD. I’m glad I went.
Turns out, he was cute, funny, they had a ton in common, and my friend is totally smitten.
So yeah, the One Date Rule? Sticking by it.