HowAboutWe – Date Report

Leave the penis paraphernalia at home.

Think of the chicest person you know sipping a drink through a straw. Now put a penis head atop that straw. Chic status revoked, right? Now hang a set of testicles off her earlobes. Her look’s probably downright laughable at this point. Not taking yourself too seriously at a bachelorette party can be great fun. Sophisticated it is not, though.

Wear what you’d normally wear for a special night out.

Speaking of penis earrings, clothing and accessories that you’d sooner wear with a Halloween costume than to dinner won’t help achieve that refined vibe you’re after. So those pink feather boas have no place. Neither do those matching T-shirts with sparkly letters spelling out your reason for celebrating. Everyone in her own little black dress? That’s lovely.

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Avoid shouting “Woo” for no good reason.

Your friend’s getting hitched, and that is worth cheering about. But randomly screaming on the street–or in a bar–and throwing your arms up in the air when you do is cheesier than it is classy. Everyone’s perfectly capable of having a good time without publicly announcing they’re having a good time.

Don’t show up everywhere with drinks already in hand.

You should definitely partake if you’re partying in a destination that allows drinking in public. Still, entering bars with your very own beverage is pretty low-end–most bouncers won’t allow you in with drinks. And that means you have to down your cocktail on the sidewalk. A photo of that would surely earn a sarcastic “classy” caption on Facebook.

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Drink out of glasses, not yardsticks.

Although it’s more effort — and more moola — to buy multiple drinks served in various glasses, it’s a lot cooler than sipping from a 36-inch-long plastic bottle…with markings indicating how much you’ve imbibed and how much you have left. Order your drinks one at a time if you’re expecting respect from your fellow revelers.

Don’t force the bride to wear anything that screams, “I’m getting married! Look at me!”

I was a perfectly willing participant in sporting multiple attention-seeking garments at my bachelorette party (admittedly not classy). If the girl in your gang who’s getting married is reluctant to dress the part, let her be. Your good time won’t be compromised if she saves the veil for her wedding day (or, you know, skips it entirely). Her good time might be if everyone’s rolling their eyes at her.

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