5 Reasons You’re Doing a Really Good Job Datingby Nikki Metzgar on August 07, 2012
Here are some great things about dating: Amazing first kisses and hearing the ‘text received’ noise and seeing it is actually is from your crush. Here are some hard things about dating: Being stood up, feeling frustrated that you haven’t met someone in a while and not having a steady significant other to take to a wedding.
In case the cons of dating are outweighing the pros for you right now (and it is a cycle), here is some encouragement that you’re doing a great job. If this doesn’t work, then may we refer you to a calming manatee?
You’re not worried about the ‘what ifs.’
What if you had gone on a third date with that guy you were lukewarm on? What if you had gone to that party instead of staying in to read a book? The answers do not matter. You’re asking questions like, Should I text this guy I met at yoga? And, Should I switch to all-natural shampoo? See? Future-oriented questions.
You know what you want–even if you aren’t getting it.
People are going to judge you no matter what your answer is to, ‘Do you want a boyfriend?’ Don’t let them. You’ll never reach your goal if you don’t know what it is.
You’re keeping an open mind.
No defeatist proclamations about there being no good single people left and how you’re going to die alone. Just because the last date didn’t work out, doesn’t mean the next one won’t. You’re going to put on your cute dress and go out on that first date, even if you’re dreading it just a tiny bit.
You’re doing a pretty good job getting over your ex
Sometimes, in the middle of your day, you’ll just stop in your tracks and a memory of him will come flooding back. Something kind he said or something terrible he did, it doesn’t matter. He’s kind of haunting you but you’re still looking forward.
You are not your dating life
Your highest highs and lowest lows seem to all have to do with romance but you’re a lot more than what’s going on in that one department of your life. You have friends you go out with, you really love this new band and you just started a new project at work. All together it doesn’t seem so bad after all.