Dating Diaries: S.O.S. I Suck at Flirtingby Nikki Metzgar on January 18, 2012
When my last boyfriend and I broke up in August, I was pretty sure that I would never find another guy that I liked as much as him. I’m aware of how absurd that sounds, but on paper we were the “perfect match.” I admired his humor and his intellect and we had so much fun together…when he wasn’t breaking up with me once a week for whatever reason.
We’ve basically been in training for these situations since the age of 11, but when I was thrown into it all of a sudden, it felt like I had never flirted with anyone in my life. There I was, at a group dinner with this guy I’d only met once before. I found myself thinking he was funny and I couldn’t even look directly at him because I was so nervous. I do remember very vividly what the wall behind him looked like, though.
Later in the evening, he went so far as to brush some lint off my shoulder. I blushed deeply and became so entranced by my own confusion about whether he was flirting with me that the table fell silent for a solid fifteen seconds. When is lint just lint and when is it “I want to touch more than your lint?”
Nikki Metzgar is a writer from Texas. She thinks the best first dates don’t include sit down dinners, but can’t help but be impressed by flowers. @nikkimetz