We’ve noticed a bit of a trend here on HowAboutWe as of late. In response to the profile question prompt, “My Perfect Sunday: ____________” many members list “Sex” as part of the day’s agenda.

Well. They’re being honest. And most of us would probably count a little sexy time as a component in any “perfect” day, right? The question is — does including this bit of information in your profile send a different message than you might intend?

In a perfect world, everyone is mature and understands that, just because a person is open about their desire for sex, that doesn’t mean that it’s all that they’re interested in. And it certainly doesn’t mean that they’re automatically interested in sex with YOU.

However, an online dating profile is the equivalent of talking to strangers. Many strangers. All at once. About how much you like sex.

We’re not saying that you shouldn’t do this. If you’re open about your sex life and you’re comfortable sharing that, go for it. We have heard, however, that mentioning sex in your profile, even in context, even in passing, can A) attract people who are interested only in sex or B) turn off people who are looking for long term relationships. (Or, as some people in the office have put it, of course the ideal Sunday includes sex. Isn’t that implied? It’s the equivalent of saying you want to come home to someone who’s attractive.)

We thought we’d put the question to you — does a mention of sex in a person’s online profile affect their chances with you? How so?

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