6 Perfectly Good Reasons To Date Multiple Peopleby Scott Alden on September 27, 2011
Whether you’re single and loving every minute of it or single and actively looking for “the one,” it is perfectly acceptable to date more than one person at a time. It may not be for everyone, but if you’re open to it, dating multiple people can actually be beneficial to you. Here are 6 reasons why.
1. You get better at dating
There’s really only one way to get better at dating. Practice, practice, practice. The wider the variety of dating experience you have, the more often you do it, the better you’ll get. Why is this important? Because the skills you develop through dating (e.g. reading people, confidence, communication self-knowledge, etc.) are many of the same skills you’ll need for a successful LTR.
2. It takes the pressure off
A first date with someone you might really like on a Monday is a bit less nerve-wracking if you’ve got a date with someone else on Wednesday.
3. It makes you more attractive
Most people would admit that how much they’re interest in a person is influenced at least a little by how many other people are interested in them.
4. It can really build confidence
The feeling that more than one person is interested in you can work wonders for your self-esteem, which is ultimately going to help you have the courage to keep looking rather than settle for a relationship that doesn’t feel quite right.
5. It develops your emotional intelligence
Having to determine the differences in your feelings for multiple, specific people and make choices about one person over gets your head and heart talking to each other in ways they might otherwise never do. It’s good exercise.
6. You’re more likely to find the right relationships
There is a myth that dating more than one person at a time means that you are not “serious” about finding someone and that you’re just enjoying being single. The truth is, you’re either serious or you’re not, but it has nothing to do with how many people you’re dating. Dating more than one person is actually the best way to figure out who might be out there for you and what you’re really looking for in a long term relationship.