Online Dating 101: If You’re Dating Someone, Should You Take Down Your Profile?by Chiara Atik on July 27, 2011
Here’s a tricky point of contention for couples: at what point in a relationship should you take down your dating profiles?
When you first start dating someone (especially if, but not necessarily only if you meet online), it’s perfectly acceptable to still have a dating profile up. You’re not, after all, going to call off the search after just one date.
But eventually, there comes a point when continuing to have a live dating profile can be awkward and cause friction within a relationship, even if you aren’t actually using it. It doesn’t matter that you’re not actively searching for dates or responding to people who contact you: keeping your profile up sends the message that you’re still looking for love.
As soon as you have an inkling that you might seriously like someone, you should probably pare back your usage of the site. You don’t have to jump the gun and delete your profile, but maybe stop messaging people for the time being. (And on HowAboutWe, you should probably consider not posting new dates once you’re starting to get serious about someone.)
You can still get away with keeping your profile up in the early stages of dating someone, or even longer if you’ve come to a mutual agreement about the relationship, or you’re just dating casually.
But the moment you start dating someone exclusively, the profile has got to come down. It’s a matter of respect for your partner, and once you’re in a relationship, there’s no reason to keep a dating profile up. If you’re hesitant to take that kind of drastic step, you should re-evaluate whether you should be in a relationship in the first place.
Of course, it’s hard to forsee the future, and sometimes things don’t work out. HowAboutWe has a simple “deactivate” feature, which takes down your profile and deactivates your account when you’re in a relationship. If things don’t work out, you can always reactivate your account, which restores all your previous information, and gets you back in the dating game.