Are You Superstitious About Your Dating Karma?by Chiara Atik on June 22, 2011
Most people are familiar with the concept of Karma, the religious cause-and-effect belief that your actions can affect your fate. In Buddhism, karma affects your next life. In modern dating, karma affects this life, so you really don’t want to mess it up.
I’ve written a lot about the One-Date Rule and how I think it’s important to say yes anytime you’re asked out on a first date. The main reasoning behind the rule is to give everyone a chance, because you might find you’re compatible with someone you wouldn’t initially expect.
But truthfully, there’s a secondary, more superstitious reason to accept every date invite you get: dating karma.
For the same reasons you don’t want to walk under a ladder or break a mirror in the house, you don’t want to be turning down dates left and right. Because, sure, you’re getting asked out a lot now, but some day the dates. Might. Just. Dry. Up.
It’s not a question of settling for someone you’re not interested in, it’s just a question of putting forth good things and having a positive attitude in the hopes of being karmically rewarded. If you go on one date with the nice guy you’re not so in to, even if it doesn’t work out in the end, you get karma points. It just keeps things flowing so that the universe will then send you a guy you are into. (Of course, we’re talking one date here — giving people a chance, not leading people on.)
Same thing goes for how you treat the people you date: if after a few dates you lose interest, do you do the fade out? Or do you gently but concretely let the person know you don’t want to see them again? Do you lead people on? Are you faithful? Are you a generous dater? Dating karma will reflect that. Treat people how you want to be treated in return.
There’s no logic to this, and of course a more rational person might rightly conclude that this whole theory is ridiculous.
But at the same time….do you really want to risk upsetting the balance?
Tell me what you guys think: are you superstitious about dating karma?