10 Reasons It’s Time to Bite the Bullet and Try Online Dating (Even If You Swore You Never Would)by Chiara Atik on May 23, 2012
Does that line of thinking sound familiar? It’s funny, despite the multitude of statistics available these days showing that more and more people are meeting their significant others online, there are still a lot of stubborn hold-outs who insist that online dating just isn’t right for them.
Maybe it’s because, deep down, some people still fear the stigma of online dating, feel like resorting to filling out a profile and putting themselves out there is some sort of admission that they can’t get dates on their own. But online dating is less about last resorts and more about casting more lines in the water. It doesn’t have to be the only way you find dates — but if you’re dissatisfied with your dating life, might as well try a different approach, a new way to meet more people.
Trust me, I get it. I get that online dating is fine for your friends, but the thought of signing up yourself makes you sort of sigh/cringe and think “No, not me. Not yet.”
But before you make a final, absolute decision, read through this list and see if maybe you should rethink your stance.
You’re Just Not Meeting New People Anymore
You’ve got your work friends, your friend friends, and your wider array of acquaintances, and by now you’ve definitely scoped out anyone single who might be peripherally attached to your social group. Time to cast a bigger net.
You get bored on Wednesday nights.
Your post-work routine of gym, dinner, and Netflix is….fine. But definitely not as exciting as getting dressed up and meeting someone new and going to a concert or museum or bar or baseball game. You’re young! Act like it!
You need a reason to stop hooking up with your ex.
Because until you have someone new in your life, or even just, like, a date, it’s all too easy to just keep going back to what you had…
You’re dying to try this new restaurant.
And, sure, you could bring a friend, but it’s such a “date-y” restaurant that it would be a shame not to go with a date, really…
All your friends are in relationships.
Which is like, fine. But now you need someone to hang out with while they’re all coupled up.
You really want a summer fling this year.
Your summer plans include holding hands at a BBQ, watching fireworks, spontaneous weekend road trips, and making out by the beach. You’ve got it all planned, now you just need the right person to do it with.
You’re totally over the bar hook-up scene.
Been there, done that. Some romance before midnight would be nice, for a change.
If you get set-up one more time, you might have to kill somebody.
Do your friends really know who you should date? Rarely. Ultimately, it’s better to do the legwork and screening yourself.
If you get your friends involved, it can be kind of fun.
To anyone whose never had a giggly, alcohol-fueled session of filling out a profile and checking out potential dates with friends, you are missing out.
You just need to get your dating confidence back.
Sometimes, all you need is a really good date, or even a really good messaging back-and-forth, to remind you how fun dating can be, and how attractive, desirable, and awesome you are.