Confession: I’m a hopeless romantic. I’m also in love with those moments when love manifests itself genuinely e.g. those nights when you know your significant other is tired and they get up to sit with you because you can’t sleep…le sigh. None of this negates by cynicism regarding most things, including love but it does help to temper it. Truth: I think that sometimes we all need a team of experts to help us navigate so if you get the chance, and here are 10 people you should interview about love:
A Serial Monogamist
Maybe it’s just me but I know at least two people who don’t seem to ever be single. This isn’t because they’re in these amazing long-term relationships but rather because in lieu of being single they’ll take any possible opportunity to be a part of a couple. Is there something sad about this? Yup. But there’s also a lesson to be learned. If you take the time to talk to one of these people you’ll learn that they have very clear ideas about what it is a good relationship should be… they just aren’t keen on waiting for it so they settle for any old thing instead.
Or whoever your hero is — Loughman’s mine. She’s the founder of Rockeresque Beauty Co. and someone who literally took her passions and poured them into a business-specifically a vegan cosmetics company that’s all kinds of kick ass. Considering that this was her dream she did and continues to do everything in her power to make sure that her product is an extension of her awesome. Relationships need to be an extension of your awesome so she’d be the perfect person to ask how to translate that.
The Biggest Womanizer You Know
It may seem counter-productive to inquire about love from someone who doesn’t seem to want it. But if television has taught us anything it’s that guys like Joey Tribbiani and Barney Stintson actually have a really good sense for what loyalty means and that willingness to be faithful is a huge part of maintaining a loving relationship.
He’s the co-author of both “He’s just not that into you” and “It’s called a breakup because it’s broken” and trust me when I tell you that these books should be required reading before you’re even allowed to think about falling in love. He’s funny but he also pulls no punches, consider the chance to talk to him a chance to converse with the fictional big brother you wish you had.
A First Grader
It’s a proven fact that little kids lack the filters that so many of us agonize over developing. This makes them the perfect people to talk to in regards to serious matters because they’re not going to give you a politically correct one, or tell you what they think you want to hear. Instead they’re going to say what’s in their hearts and sometimes that raw honesty is exactly what we need.
Hello, my name is Tiffany and I’m addicted to wedding planning. Or at the very least I’m addicted to watching the process unfold on television and this party planner is pure magic. He also seems to make these very real attachments to the brides he works with in a short time and while it could all be for the camera I like to believe it could be genuine. The ability to form those quick peer attachments can be a gift or a curse and the ability to get more insight on that would be priceless.
A Hospice Volunteer
Have you ever seen one of these applications? I have, and after reading it I realized that it was something I simply couldn’t do. It truly takes a special breed of person to be able to not only be with someone in what could be their final weeks of life but also to impart comfort while they’re there. Take note on both selflessness and compassion.
She comes off like the best friend we should all be lucky enough to have at least once, she’s got great comedic timing, is cute as a button and knows how to turn a pretend relationship into something real. Consider that her husband of almost 20 years is a guy who played her love interest on a soap. Bonus points for the fact that even though they both had celeb cred they chose to elope rather than getting married in some huge ceremony and selling the pics to People
Magazine. I may just write to her myself for pointers on longevity.
The Longtime Wife Of Any A-List Actor Or Musician
I’ve got three words for you: “groupies” and “stalkers” and “exes” (oh my!). These are just a few of the pitfalls that have to be dealt with by these women but the ones who stick it out and stick around though all of the drama need to have their collective knowledge archived somewhere.
My Friend Keith
Granted, he’s not super social and I have no intention on sharing him with the masses for real but he does have some amazing insight as far as love is concerned. After six years of friendship I think I’m adept enough to share some of his wisdom: First, sex isn’t a weapon and shouldn’t be used as one ever. Second, there are often differences between the relationship you want and the ones you have and it’s up to you to be honest about the difference. Third, someone saying they love you and someone showing that love aren’t the same thing, think about which matters more to you. That’s all you’re getting — now go out and find your own Keith. Do it.
Remember guys and dolls — the stupidest answers come as a result of questions we ask the wrong people. Hopefully the opposite is true.